Thursday, April 24, 2008

Pics - of my hair, and Levi - and a note to Mr/Ms Anon

First off, here is a picture of my hair. Not the best picture, but the best one you are going to get of me, after work and a shower, and exhausted. :) It does show off my forehead quite nicely, LOL.


And because I took a couple of pics of him tonight, here are a few of my poor little man. The poor baby, no one feeds him. He is just wasting away.


Levi is now almost 6 months old. Can you believe it? He will be 6 months old next Thursday. Where did the time go? He can sit up by himself, he can hold his heavy bottle (10 ounces!!) He can crawl - backwards. Although today he has learned how to get on his hands and knees and sort of throw himself/flop forwards, so by the end of the week he should be moving forward.


This whole getting ready to move, it has me somewhat hormonal. I can fly off the handle at the slightest provocation. I would love to say more about it, I am going to bite my tongue, and just try to make my point as nice as possible. This probably wont come across the right way, but it isnt meant to be snarky, or bitchy or anything like that. I am just responding to the comment.

To the anon poster that left me a comment today I am just going to say a few things. While I appreciate your concerns, you obviously only know about a portion of our past, in which I have blogged about, but you know nothing about our present, or our future. Nor do you know the whole story about what happened. He probably does seem like he is doing fine without me there. And he probably is. I am doing fine here by myself as well. But that isnt a marriage. A marriage is two people. It is a partnership. And that is what we are. Yes we had issues - caused by BOTH of us, and because of those issues, we both have grown in who we are together, as well as who we are seperately.

You also do not know or understand who my in-laws are. My in-laws would not lie to me to cover up for their son. They are not those type of people, thank God. It has already been proven.

And let me point you in the direction of something. My daughters will be fine. My sons will be fine. Their education will be more than fine. I am a mother first, above all else. I am doing this for my children as well. They deserve to have a mother and a father who are together. You talk about the missed opportunities for schooling because they will be in Honduras. Which, with homeschool, I am taking care of those opportunities. No worries. But by staying in the US, they will be missing out on all sorts of LIFE opportunities.

Oh and, if you care so much why not post who you are.

Lastly, does he really love me? That he does. That he does. He is at our house, by himself. Not with the mother of his children. (she is at her house with her husband - and if you had a clue as to how their relationship is with one another, you would know how I know for sure). You said alot of you are doubting his heart? Well good for you. Who and what you doubt means nothing to me. What matters is if I doubt his heart, or his sincerity. And I don't.


Amie Vaughan said...

Oooooh, I like your hair. The length suits you. =D

Poor neglected Levi. I can tell he's just wasting away for want of care and love. LOL! I just want to pinch those cheeks!

Hmmmm. That's all I really have to say about anonymous. Hmmmm. I guess it might carry more weight if you knew who they were, and if they actually knew you, huh? I got a comment from some random person this week that made me want to respond in a similar way. Must be the full moon last week or something.

The rest of us, we're all behind you, supporting you and your ENTIRE family in this. And praying for you. =D

My3Ro's said...

Girl you are gorgeous and Levi is getting huge. Anonomys needs to leave it alone if they dont know the whole story. It sounds like Lale is deply in love with you. Screw the haters. Sorry for the language.

CancunCanuck said...

Hey hon, you look fab! Levi is ginormous, holy cow, feels like yesterday when you were just popping him out!

Regarding anon. Hmmm. Well, I don't think they meant any harm, I think their intention may have been right, but not knowing who they are or what they actually know makes it all a bit odd. Perhaps a personal direct email with real information may have been a better outlet than a comment. The reality is, only you can and Lale can know what your relationship is about. While it's nice to know that someone is looking out for you, it would be nicer if they were more direct. e.g., someone could have come and posted a comment on my blog about my husband cheating before I found out and I would have been pissed, but they may have meant well, KWIM? I dunno, I would have gone with the email rather than an anon comment in this case.

Anywho, chin up, stay positive, you are almost there!

Andrea said...

Oh I like your hair! I can't believe you cut it yourslef! Mine would be three or four maybe five different lengths if I did it myself. And it wouldn't be layers, it would be in bad chunks! Levi is so big!! I can't believe it!! I can't believe he drinks 10 ounces!! Lydia only drinks 6 sometimes 8 if she hadn't eaten anything!! He is a chunk!! Too cute!!!

I think it's a great adventure for you to move!! The kids will bennifit from culture and be with family. Some people need to relax! They need to know that you would not put your kids in harms way. And some people need to grow some balls! They need to put their names on their comments!!

Megita said...

I love your hair too!

As for Anon's comment, I wouldn't worry about it! Like you said, they don't know the WHOLE story between you and your husband, so who are they to really say anything? That would make me mad. Like everyone else has said, and I agree, they could have at least "shown their face" so you would know who they are!

On a more better note, OMG time is really flying! Soon you will be in Honduras! How exciting! :D

Are you guys just about all packed? :)

Amie Vaughan said...

Just wanted to come back today and say *Happy Birthday!* It is today, right? =D

Anonymous said...

Oh no! I really do care. I just really think this is a huge mistake. You 2 have a very stormy past and a not very good present, having been apart for months.
Homeschooling is great but having lived there, I know resources are limited down there and your eldest son has soooo much potential that you seem to be overlooking.
Life experiences? Sure,it is great fun for the first few months then you start actually living there and he starts drinking again and then. BAM! You are miserable with NO WAY to get back home again.
You guys will be living in poverty too. Poverty is no fun.
Please don't mess up your kids life by chasing after a man. Please don't do that.
Let Lale come back to the US and be a family again.
DO THAT for your kids.

with all respect
P. Montgomery

My boys are Army Brats said...

Wow, all I can say is "wow".

I'm relatively new to blogging and I'm really put off by people who feel the need to comment negatively towards people. Seriously I guess I just love learning about other people's lives with hopes of learning new things and laughing a lot!

Certainly these people have the ability click close on their browser window right? OR they could even.....sit down for this it's a big one....go to a different site! Open their own blog and share their opinions there. Geeesh!

Good luck with your move, you're a brave woman who obviously has thought this through and will be strong enough to make it work or find an alternative!

Cute hair cut.......I stick to just cutting my own bangs and let someone else do the rest! lol

LaGringaMasBella said...

Hey Jennifer!I really like the haircut. It looks right on you and it'll be easier to take care of too.

What's Levi drink? Baby Gatorade? lol He's soooo cute.

As for anon poster, OMG! Anon needs some schoolin.

Those comments left about 'stormy past' and 'unfaithfulness' were way off base.

1. Relationships have ups and downs.
2. It's nobody's business.
3. Those remarks shouldn't have been in a comment, private email would've been appropriate.

And lastly, my husband and I have had a stormy past too.

In MY defense I'll say that being married to someone who can be deported any day of the week is pretty damn stressful. No one and no relationship is perfect.

Anon should've & could've handled their concerns because it looks like anon was just trying to air dirty laundry. That's not cool.

Shame on P.Montgomery, even though the intentions may be in the right place, shame on P.Montgomery.

-Lisa :)

P.S. Our relationship is rock solid because of all the storms we've weathered. I wouldn't change a thing.

La Gringa said...

Those anonymous comments can be hurtful. :-/

"Chasing after a man" has a bit of a different connotation than following your husband! That really wasn't fair.

Cheer up, girl. You are almost there. It may be tough at first, but you have a lot going for you and you'll have your family back together again. You can do it!

Anonymous said...

Even though many have said it, don't give those comments a second thought. You have too much going on right now to be worrying about some anon. comments that someone left in your blog. Your family is ready for this, and it will be awesome.

Levi is a gorgeous baby!!! He looks so cute and happy!! Awww.... :)

Enjoy your Sunday!! Relax.

Anonymous said...

Duh! I forgot to tell you how nice your hair looks!!! The legnth looks very good on you!! :)

Adrians Mama said...

Hmmm wow 21 days!!!! Craziness! Anyways I like you hair! I was cracking up at the comment you left me! And Levi is sooooo cute! And getting so big!

Patty said...

There are people in this world who should keep their opinions to themselves. Anon is one of them. Only you know what is best for you and yours. You have a good brain, and you are adept at using it. I am so glad the time is coming near for your family. I just wish we could be on the same plane with you.

Patty - Ft. Lauderdale - Trujillo

Megita said...

Jennifer, thanks for writing to that guy who posted on my blog. I should have just had you say everything for me b/c with what you wrote, well I couldn't have said it any better. I was trying to say SOMETHING like you wrote but couldn't get all the words out right and let my emotions over the whole thing take over.

As for the Anon poster again, P. Montgomery or WHOEVER, well the comment about letting your husband come back to the U.S. If only it really was THAT easy. I wouldn't want my husband risking his life to cross back over the border. I think what you are doing is the right thing. Like everyone else says, don't worry about what P. Montgomery says, it is your life. And like you have said "A marriage is 2, not 1."

(While we are on the topic of marriage, I kind of think that if I had gone to move to be with Daniel during this Immigration process, things might have been better than they are now.)

You are doing the right thing, Jennifer. No ifs, ands, or buts! :D Soon you will be with your husband and your family will be whole once again! I am SO happy for you! :D

~Megan :o)

The Romero-Schroeder said...

First i like your hair!!
And i have to say that poor Levi is just so tiny and fragil, he remainds me of my poor malnurished son!
TO THE ANNON: i know this has nothing to do with me, BUT i live in honduras, and i´m married to a wonderful HONDURAN MAN, that treats me like an equal as it should me, not like a princess becuase we dont live in fairytale land, but as a Partner, a woman, his best friend, his lover, that is all we can ask for. We have some great schoold in honduras, as a matter of fact we have some great universities too. I dont know if you know the country but if you do, then it is really sad that you would not appreciate all the great things it has.

Scarlett said...

holy chunky monkey! Levi's off the charts! he's so squeezeable though! LOL very cute!

Amie Vaughan said...

Hey, Jennifer, random question... my birthday is Monday, and I can't get good Mexican food here. I'm looking for a good, authentic recipe that I can make here (read: that I can find the ingredients for here, lol) and my sister said I should ask you. So I'm asking: got any good recipes you'd care to share, to make a girl's birthday special? My flatmate is out of town, and no one loves me enough to throw me a party, so I'm on my own. Thanks! And I hope you are doing well... time is short! ;)

Amie Vaughan said...

Thanks for the link, Jennifer... I'll have to try that drink sometime. But I think I'm going to keep searching for a *real* recipe. Quick and easy Mexican is the only kind I can get here, so I want something a little... more, I guess. I bookmarked it for another time, though! =)

Amie Vaughan said...

Thanks, Jennifer... that site looks just like what I was craving. You are the best!

I hope things are going well for you, and that you've had a productive weekend. I've been thinking about you and your family a lot... and can't wait to hear how your prep is going! Thanks for your help with the recipes. =D